I met my first co-founder here about a year ago and I adore her! Her passion is fantastic and she was a perfect fit to balance my big thinking with detail orientation. We both had come from extraordinarily bad co-founder situations within 6 months.
I met her 5 months after I parted ways with a possible co-founder and a even worse parting on her end. We met for coffee and asked to record our conversation because of her deep knowledge in our area. After November we "dated" as she became a super advisor making introduction to a possible technical leads for at the time my startup. We went from meeting monthly, to weekly, then daily and after thinking about it we decided she would be a great co-founder for the level of credibility, day to day knowledge, etc. All of this took six months and in that time I had great feedback from the people who knew her best, she met my advisors. Keep in mind that my start up was at this point a year in existence when we met.
I think fundamentally the dating part of foundership is so key. I know that if all things don't work out I love our dynamic. Relationships take time and I think that if you wouldn't get married to someone you met in a weekend (i.e. startup weekend) then don't join a company in a weekend.
We're currently on the hunt for a CTO but we know we would pay someone before we got married. The ability for the CEO and original founder to cede control is hard and also takes time for original founders to grow into. This stopped being my startup and became our startup once my co-founder joined and that's hard if you don't have the bigger picture in mind. This is my first startup and I want to learn as much as possible from smart good natured people, and so far I've been blessed.
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